Trust

For the past couple of days I've been thinking about the word trust a lot. Is it really possible to trust a spouse 100 percent? Can complete trust shield act as a veil, shielding us from the truth? Trust is something that seems simple in a relationship, especially with a person that has not given you a reason not to trust him/her. But I feel that trust isn't something that is just established in the beginning of a relationship and then left alone. It's like saying,"Hey, I haven't done anything for you not to trust me yet so you can trust me forever." But can you really? People change and even when they are in love they do foolish things. So if I adhere to the belief that since you never gave me a reason to distrust you I shall never be the least bit suspicious and take everything you say at face value, will things be okay? For me trusting someone 100 percent makes you vulnerable. Because when you have complete trust you feel that you have no reason to be suspicious and that can lead you to ignore instincts that could otherwise help you. I don't know if this making a whole lot of sense now but it's just my feelings on the issue of trust. A person doesn't necessarily have to lie or cheat for you to lose to trust in him/her. I feel that a lot of things can lead to trust breaking down. For example if your partner changes his feelings about issues that are relevant to your relationship, that can lead some sort of suspicion. "What is the reason for this change of heart?," you find yourself thinking. If one value can change what's to say that other values won't change. But the biggest thing for me now is when your partner sees how hurt you are by something he/she did (even if it seems insignificant to him/her), and doesn't do anything about it. Instead he/she turns the situation around and makes you feel like you are at fault for feeling hurt. So you can't help but wonder that if your partner sees your hurt feelings as your own fault and isn't willing to do anything about it, how can you trust him/her in the first place. You shouldn't hurt the one you love and if you did so unintentionally you should correct the issue right away. When you really love someone and want to be with that person you will sacrifice anything and everything and not complain about it. Because that person would do the same for you. Your disregard to my feelings by not acting in a way to make them better shows me that I can't trust you 100 percent. Because if I can't trust you to make me feel better and more secure in the relationship then how can I ever trust you completely?